How to overcome Negative Beliefs that are Keeping you Stuck

We all suffer from unhelpful, negative beliefs but, some of us suffer more than is necessary.  Have you ever been in a situation where you had to make a life-changing decision and was faced with two choices: a bad choice which seemed like the attractive easy option and the best choice that looked tough to swallow. It might not be a life-altering situation in the sense of the heavens opening or life and death stuff – but you’d be amazed at how even the smallest choices that we make can have a knock on effect on the overall path we take.

In psychology, namely Cognitive Behavioural therapy (CBT) there is an argument that your thoughts will dictate your footsteps.  This ties in with Biblical truth, as Yeshua taught us the importance of our beliefs in co-creating our reality and then there is the favourite quote of Christian who favour CBT:

Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect. (Romans 12:2, ESV)

I have seen this truth in my own everyday experiences, the lies that we tell ourselves can easily become reality if and when we let them take root in our actions. So I’m really excited to start my Advanced practice Diploma in CBT shortly! (Continue reading)

How to overcome Negative Beliefs that are Keeping you Stuck

 

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The Secret Place and Motivational Manna

secret place meditation based on psalm 91

I’ve decided to share extracts from my Reflective Meditation book “The Secret Place” across several of my online spaces, one of them being here.

Today I want to share the first meditation from the book it’s aptly called

Day 1 – “My Secret Place”

secret place meditation based on psalm 91

Continue reading The Secret Place and Motivational Manna

A Meditation for Anxiety & Low Self-Worth using Psalm 27:1

This is a reflective meditation for emotional well-being particularly relating to reducing anxiety, insecurity and low self-worth.

I wrote this after meditating on Psalm 27:1 and it has been a huge blessing to me and others who I have spoken it over or read it to.

The meditation also includes scripture references which came to my mind as I was writing the words and is a great starting point for you to look deeper into the symbolism used within the meditation. Continue reading A Meditation for Anxiety & Low Self-Worth using Psalm 27:1

Free Biblical Stress & Fear Management Course

Dear friends,

 

I just wanted to let you know about a new development on my ministry website 🙂  I am really excited about what YAH has put in my heart to do this year, for example I have just finished developing a free 9-week online programme that focuses on helping Believers to understand and reduce their stress, anxiety and fear levels.  The full details of this programme are available here.

Blessings of Shalom to you xxx

 

Speaking words that bring healing and life

Over the last couple of months, God has been speaking to me about the power of words.  This blog post marks the first in a series of thoughts and revelations on this topic which I hope will be a blessing to whomever needs it.

The Tree of Life Proverbs 15: 4

Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof.

Proverbs 18: 21

The Bible teaches us that our words are extremely powerful and as such we should monitor our speech.  Just like the Word of God is creative and is seed, as the only part of creation who are made in His Divine image our words do the same.  Our words are both seed and fruit.

The parable of the Sower clearly testifies to God’s Word as seed, when planted in the right conditions and correctly maintained the seed grows into a tree that bears godly fruit.  Genesis tells us that all fruit contains the seed within itself; this means that godly fruit also contains seed within itself.  The seed enables the tree to produce its own offspring and for the cycle of sowing and reaping godly fruit to continue.

Finish reading the original blog post @ On the Road to Healing

Sharing my testimony of God’s goodness to me

Dear friends,

I know it’s been a while since I have properly been here but today I just wanted to come over and share this testimony with you all, the first three paragraphs are a short background and after that is the testimony.

You know that things have been tough for me both health wise and financially, I fell ill in 2008 due to excessive stress and work and left my job in 2009 partially as a consequence of this but would have probably stayed on if God had not asked me to leave.  I have worked sparadocially since then knowing that it is not God’s will for me ‘to work’ in the same field/role that I had been in.  In 2010 my hubby and I had our traditional wedding, a small intimate affair in my dad’s house and in the same year we lost our own home.  We moved ‘temporarily’ into his mother’s house as she was away for 6 months, when she returned hubby remained and I moved in with my dad.  This was the case until January this year.

In around February/March hubby began to experience strange symptoms (I won’t go into the details) but we were worried, he was on antibiotics for a bit, went to A & E and even was referred to a specialist.  Slowly, hubby began to hear God asking him to “come out of her” ie. the slave system of the work he had been doing.  He was working so many hours, trying to be a man of excellence and integrity but the more he gave never seemed to be enough, in fact his co-workers became jealous of his success and started to plot against him.  After taking nearly a month off due to illness, he finally accepted that God wanted him to leave his place of employ and start his own company.  So he did.

My husabnd’s last pay package came in, we used it to set up the company and live.  We felt so sure that the business would be successful from start as many of his previous clients on hearing that he had left asked him to contact them, but every door we had previously thought would lead us to a fertile plane had a no entry sign on.  It seemed that financially we were in a tight spot, we only had £30 left to go on food and electricity.  We had two choices in front of us:

  1. Try and do something to bring in money e.g. work, beg or borrow.
  2. Trust in God in what He was teaching us and showing and see whether He really is El Shaddai

We decided to do the latter.

The testimony Continue reading Sharing my testimony of God’s goodness to me

When fear takes a hold…

and the thought of your days seems to overwhelm you, here are a few promises to hold onto instead.

Isaiah 40: 31 – But they that wait upon the LORD shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint

Job 17:9 Nevertheless, the righteous will hold to their ways, and those with clean hands will grow stronger.

Psalm 103: 2-5 – Bless the LORD, O my soul, and forget not all his benefits:who forgives all thine iniquities; who heals all thy diseases;who redeems thy life from destruction; who crowns thee with lovingkindness and tender mercies; who satisfies thy mouth with good things; so that thy youth is renewed like the eagle’s.

Psalm 61: 2 – From the end of the earth will I cry unto you, when my heart is overwhelmed: lead me to the rock that is higher than I.

Psalm 18: 2 – The LORD is my rock, and my fortress, and my deliverer; my God, my strength, in whom I will trust; my shield, and the horn of my salvation, and my high tower.

Psalm 27: 1 – The LORD is my light and my salvation; whom shall I fear? the LORD is the strength of my life; of whom shall I be afraid?

Psalm 18: 28 – For you will light my lamp: the LORD my God will enlighten my darkness.

Psalm 46: 1-3 God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble.  Therefore we will not fear, though the earth be removed, and though the mountains be carried into the midst of the sea; though the waters thereof roar and be troubled, though the mountains shake with the swelling thereof. Selah.

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On nurturing and growing the fruit of Love

I’m sitting here typing knowing that I need to say something but not quite sure what it will be, but I know that it will be on love.  Why love?  Because God has been dealing with me in this area, and I’m both saddened and perplexed by what He has unveiled in me.  I’ve always been known for having a kind heart but deep down inside I guess I was always kind, loving and giving on my own terms, when it suited me best.  I could go out of my way to help someone but not if it encroached past my well-fortified four walls, physically and spiritually. 

Yesterday was a case in point, I had designated it as my rest day because I was worn out from having to look after my husband who has been ill for around a month, cooking, cleaning, ministry work and dealing with my own health and well-being problems.  In the midst of all of this, the thing that had suffered the most was my quality time with my Father (Abba) so I made a silent vow the night before to spend the day with Him, just He and I.  I had so many plans about how I would spend this ‘us’ time, I would read, write, pray, sing, dance and anything else I was moved to do… it didn’t end up that way.  A major issue for hubby and I is that we live in shared accommodation, so we have one room for personal use, this doesn’t really matter when he’s at work but with him at home it does really matter.  So while I was trying to carve out some spiritual rest time, Eke was talking to me or reading out loud, fair enough I know that I didn’t tell him that it was my ‘rest’ day but I could feel myself becoming more and more agitated and frustrated as the day wore on.  So I went downstairs as everyone else was out and decided to sit in the front room then my husband told me that one of his young mentees was coming round grrrrrrrrrrrr!!!!  This would mean that I would have to forfeit all of my plans and put on my social face instead, now how do I dig myself out of these feelings of anger and frustration and wrap myself back in God’s cloak of love and warmth? Continue reading On nurturing and growing the fruit of Love

Me, me, me and more of Me.

Have you ever counted the number of times that you refer to yourself in conversation? Or maybe, you’ve stopped to think about your tone or inflection of voice as you say “me, my, mine, I”?  Having studied and taught psychology for a number of years, I began to learn a lot about a person by how they spoke about themselves, clues pertaining to their confidence or lack of confidence were buried in the number of times they used the first person and how they used it.

But the problem was that I was often too be busy psychoanalysing others that I became oblivious to my own issues and problems.  If I think back to conversations I have had, I can see that my use of the first person was always used defensively.  I had become so used to defending myself by hiding behind what I felt I needed, what I wanted, what I thought of this and that and what I could and couldn’t do that it became almost instinctual for my conversation to be littered with “I don’t believe that…””I don’t think that…” “I’m not, I can’t, I won’t”  I know why I used these words, I felt that by using these words that I was distinguishing and separating myself from people who I believed had the power to hurt me in some way.  My defensiveness was rooted in fear and insecurity aka low self-esteem, but unfortunately for me this was hidden behind a sense of false ego. Continue reading Me, me, me and more of Me.

Shall He find faith on the earth?

I lay awake early one morning pondering the words of a dear friend, she writes:

So many people I know and care for are going through some very trying times… everything… that can be stretched, tested and tried seems to be getting the full force in recent months and years.

As I lie here I can’t help but nod my head in agreement, things seem to be getting tougher and harder across the board but I see this trend most especially amongst God’s Children.  Alongside this trend, is the obvious desire to escape from it all, to find a way out from all this hurt, pain and coldness that seems to be becoming second nature within the world.  Unfortunately Christians are not exempt from this either and I see this most clearly in the rise of prosperity teaching which teaches people to have it all now, and the consequence of this is greater coldness, self-centredness and materialism which slowly causes the individual to break out of the sheltering wing of the LORD and become firmly rooted in the world.  So now we see a world in pain, straining under the weight of living and its people frantically looking for any way to ease the load and to shift the burden, how far do you think mankind will go to make themselves comfortable?  What does the Bible say?

I have never been one that has clearly understood eschatology (the study of the end times) but I have always possessed an understanding that things will get increasingly hard and that there will be a time of great tribulation, so I am shocked when I hear Christians brothers and sisters say that they will not be affected by any of this because Jesus (Yeshua) will come and rapture them out.  Is this really and truly what the Bible teaches us?  Matthew 24 covers the signs of the end in some depth, Yeshua said:

9Then shall they deliver you up to be afflicted, and shall kill you: and ye shall be hated of all nations for my name’s sake.  And then shall many be offended, and shall betray one another, and shall hate one another.  And many false prophets shall rise, and shall deceive many.  And because iniquity shall abound, the love of many shall wax cold.  But he that shall endure unto the end, the same shall be saved.

Verses 9-13.

What can we see here? A few things:

  • Betrayal, who is doing the betraying?  I sincerely believe that betrayal will come within the body of Christ, when things get too hard there will be people who will choose to save their own life and turn against their spiritual family.  We have seen this occur previously in history, and we should not be surprised that human nature should repeat itself.
  • Mass deception and the rise of false prophets.   Who will we be more inclined to listen to someone who tells us that we don’t have to suffer anymore, that we can have all we want now or a distant God who wants us to suffer the worst tribulation in all history (verse 21)?
  • Coldness and hatred, the hearts of men will turn cold, there will be no love left to give only a desire to take and survive, but Yeshua says: “but he that endures unto the end, the same shall be saved.”  Ahhh, we see that word ‘endurance’, God tells us that living in the world during these times will be something that we will have to endure until the end, there is no ‘get out now’ button.

There has been a proliferation of end times movies which show the Body of Christ being ‘raptured out’ before things get too scary and too traumatic, this reminds me of memories of childhood where when a horror movie would come on the television, I would simultaneously hide behind the sofa and peek over it to see what was going on.  I feel that Christians are now watching the world, behind the sofa (safety net of the rapture), scared of what the Bible says the future will hold and using the concept of a pre-tribulation rapture as a safety net.  Is this true, will we really not have to go through the tribulation at all?  What does the Bible say?

Yeshua said:

“And except those days should be shortened, there should no flesh be saved: but for the elect’s sake those days shall be shortened.”

 verse 22

Who are God’s elect, God’s chosen ones, if not those who faithfully confess and hold on to the commandments of God and the testimony of Christ?  Yes it’s true, God’s people will still be here on earth during the time of the great tribulation.

But does this mean that the rapture will not occur at all?  No. if the rapture refers to the catching up of God’s people to meet Him (Yeshua) in the air, this is a biblical truth (verses 31, 40 and 41).  But this event occurs after the tribulation, not before and not during it:

Immediately after the tribulation of those days shall the sun be darkened, and the moon shall not give her light, and the stars shall fall from heaven, and the powers of the heavens shall be shaken: And then shall appear the sign of the Son of man in heaven: and then shall all the tribes of the earth mourn, and they shall see the Son of man coming in the clouds of heaven with power and great glory.  And he shall send his angels with a great sound of a trumpet, and they shall gather together his elect from the four winds, from one end of heaven to the other.

Verse 29-31

Why am I writing all of this and what do I hope to achieve?

I am writing this in love, because I see the signs spoken of in Matthew 24, not just wars, earthquakes and famines but those more subtle signs which are taking place within the heart of mankind.  People are not only getting colder, darker and more desperate, but people are becoming more and more afraid as the world seems to break down all around them.  Does God want us to live in fear?  No!  Yeshua said that when we see all these things that we should look UP because our salvation (He, Yeshua means salvation) draws near.  If you read my post on the Last Trump, you will recognise that it focuses on the second coming of the Messiah and reminds us to be soul-ready for His arrival.  Am I really there yet, are you?

Chapter 24 ends with stark warnings to His people:

  • will we allow the deceiver to break into our house and steal our salvation from us while we are too busy in the world (verse 43)?
  • Will we grow tired of waiting and frustrated with the trials of life, that we begin to mistreat one another and become more and more like those in the world (verses 48-49)?

The Lord says that the recompense for the world will be very, very heavy because He will avenge His elect (Luke 18: 8).  When the Son of Man returns, shall He find faith left on the earth?  How is your faith today, shaky, barely visible?  We must be strengthened in our faith in order to be amongst those who do still have faith, no matter how little when our Messiah returns.  And I sincerely believe that all this stretching, testing and trying that my friend spoke of is God’s way of saying to us: I love you so much that I’m making you go through this now so that your faith is strong enough for the time to come ahead.  No my dear friends, it’s not easy, none of our spiritual ancestors had it easy, why do we expect any less for ourselves, does God rate us any higher than He did His prophets?  Please as Yeshua said, let us learn our lesson from the fig tree (verse 32) and be ready, let us not rely on false glimpses of hope but instead let us help to build each other up in faith and truth in readiness for the day that our Messiah returns.  Even if we are not alive for His return let us live and die marked in and by faith.

Please share your thoughts, I really am interested in them positive, neutral or negative.